The 8020 Rule in a Relationship

The 8020 RULE

Have you ever heard of the 80:20 Rule? I though as much. This rule came into fore in one of my favorite movies “Why Did I Get Married” by Tyler Perry.

The 80:20 Rule says that you can only get 80% of what you want from your spouse in your relationship, but there is 20% that you don’t or will never get from that relationship, but you might find in another person. This means that a person can never give you 100% in a relationship, well except you are dating JESUS. lol.

However, for some people the ratio could be 60:40, 75:25, 90:10. It doesn’t matter really. The main thing is that you get more of what you wanted from your spouse, than what you don’t want. To make the rule clearer, let’s say a lady is dating a guy and she only gets 80% of what she really wants. eg He is romantic, can cook, buys gift for her, visit and calls her often bla bla bla. All these amount to the 80%. However, he doesn’t have a good sense of humour, which she would have loved he had. This will be the 20%.

The problem is that instead of being grateful for that 80% we have, we focus on the 20% we don’t have. The absence of the 20% usually becomes very visible when there is problem in the relationship. From the earlier example given, lets say the lady had an issue with her boyfriend, and in her office there is this colleague who has a very great sense of humour (20%), this could really get to the lady and make her compare the guy with her boyfriend and even in some cases cheat on her boyfriend forgetting the fact that the guy only has 20% and doesn’t have the 80%.

There is never a thing as a perfect relationship. There are always issues and disagreement, and at these times it could be tempting to look outside the relationship. Try to focus on the good in your spouses and the positive in your relationships, instead on focusing on the bad and the negative which are only the minority.

So ladies, guys, men and women before I drop my pen to continue my puff puff before it gets cold, permit me to say that it is better to fight and be grateful for that 80%, than to lose it because you were too attached to and chasing the 20% you don’t have.

THANK YOU FOR READING!!!!!!!!!!